How full is your love tank?

How full is your love tank? You know the tank of your heart.  If there was a meter that could read the measure of your hearts love, at this moment, what would the level be?  For instance, since we are moms with little ones and we are very familiar with bath time… Close your eyes with me and visualize a picture of your heart.  When I did this earlier during bath time, I saw my heart resembling a Johnson’s baby soap bottle that is clear so that I can see the liquid soap that is inside.  Do you have the picture in your mind yet?  Ok, so if I was to ask you where is the love liquid level of your heart, the liquid that you can see in this soap bottle, where would the level be? Would it be overflowing, full to the top, midway full, or almost empty?


What we put in our heart determines what will flow out.  Let me explain this a little more.  We have all heard that what goes in, must come out… If we are filling our heart with God’s word, messages from our pastors and teachers, worship music, encouraging words from friends, uplifting songs, devotionals, books, etc… then we are filling our hearts with the “good stuff”.   We are able to pour out from our love tank the “good stuff” like love, joy, peace and goodness to those around us. 


But, if we are filling our hearts with negative thoughts, worldly things, and media that is not uplifting and brings sadness, discouragement and discontentment, then there is “the not-so good stuff” that will begin to flow out from your heart.   We may start to dwell on the things that we are hearing and absorbing and all these thoughts and information we have heard begin to run free in our heart and minds. Things may arise out of anger, fear, doubts, and the cares of this world and it begins to come out in our actions and attitudes; these things that come out we may wonder “where in the world did that come from?” think back to “what did I fill my heart with today?”


Stick with me, we really are going somewhere with this… just hang on.  


A few weeks ago our housekeeper, a very sweet lady,  was at our house cleaning.  She walked past the kitchen and we shared a few things that was going on with life in general, you know, how are your kids?  I Told her what had been going on with my kids, and as she walked away to the other room, I said “Oh, Sote, I love you…” She acted shocked to hear these words coming out of my mouth to her.  Almost like she did not usually hear these from her other clients.  I said, oh you know what I mean, I am so thankful for all the work that you do around our home helping me clean up every other week, and for you being “you!”   She said she totally understood and that she could feel God’s love flowing out from me to her.  She even told me she loved me too.  


With me it’s normal to say I love you to family and friends, our leaders in embrace grace, all of our sweet mama’s and babies!!  It just come natural for my love to pour out.  


Just that morning before Sote had arrived I had been reading a blog post from one of our embrace grace mama’s and my heart was filled up with so much love as I read it!!  It was as if a waterfall had been poured out on me (one of my fav songs is Waterfall by United Pursuit Band) and the chorus says “like a waterfall of honey, let your love be poured out on me, overcome me, overcome me.” 

That was the feeling I had that morning and my love was pouring out onto others.  


The night before mothers day just a few days ago, we were in the kitchen and my husband was cooking a fabulous meal and we turned on the radio and this song came on “Something Heavenly” by Sanctus Real. Some of the lyrics that spoke to my heart were: “there’s a wave that’s crashing over me, all I can do is surrender to whatever your doing inside of me, it feels like chaos but somehow there’s peace, it’s hard to surrender to what I can’t see, but I’m giving in to something heavenly. You’re up to something bigger than me, larger than life, something heavenly. It’s time to face up, clean this old house, time to breathe in and let everything out.”


All of a sudden I truly felt something heavenly and I could feel Jesus’ love so strongly, I looked at my husband and as I sang the words to the song, he had tears in his eyes.  I said “i feel Jesus so strongly right now at this moment!!” he agreed and felt Him too!


Some of the examples I have given of having love poured into me were from a blog post or from songs or even kindness from a friend.  


As you pour out your love to your baby, to your family and friends, and those around you, I pray that you are being filled back up somehow/ someway with Jesus’ love.  We all have our own love language so I pray whatever special way He speaks to you, that your heart will be open to receive His love so that you can freely give it away!  


I asked Jesus how He sees me and these are the words He wrote upon my heart… nurturing, comforting, soothing and relaxing.  That is how he has created me and what I hope others feel when they are around me.   


The fullness of our heart is expressed in our eyes, in our touch, in what we write, in what we say, in the way we walk, the way we receive, the way we need.  – Mother Teresa


I will close with this one last song.  This song is so special to me because I first heard it when I was driving to Kairos at Gateway.  Kairos is a freedom ministry that I recommend to everyone!!  This was also just before our first Embrace Grace semester and when I heard these words, I felt God whisper to me “as you give love to the mommies and babies, I’ll return the love so much more than you gave away!!” (in other words as you pour out, I will pour back into you.)  


I want my love tank to be overflowing, how about you?  As single mama’s you are pouring out so much every day.  This is my prayer for you:

Jesus will you come and touch each and every heart that is reading this post at this very moment.  May you fill her heart, her love tank, so full that she can not contain it all.  May it be immeasurable!  That it will be spilling out and she will need more bottles to hold all the love that you pour out upon her. So that as she pours out her love on those around her, they can ultimately feel your love Jesus.  Open the floodgates!


Give Love

By Third Day

Whisper softly to me
Share with me your heart
And just ignore the world and what it does
I know that you’ve been hurting, you’ve been torn apart
Let me pull you close and hold you in my arms

If you give love
I’ll return the love and you will see
So much more than you gave away
If you give love
Give it to me

Listen very closely as I sing this song
And please believe that I mean every word
When I say I love you
I mean it with all my heart
Let it be the best thing that you’ve ever heard

Whisper softly to me
Share with me your heart


“I want them to be encouraged and knit together by strong ties of LOVE. I want them to have complete confidence that they understand God’s mysterious plan, which is Christ himself.” Colossians 2:2


Write it on your heart that the ones you love are life’s most precious gifts. 



Written by Salina Duffy 


4 thoughts on “How full is your love tank?

  1. I just wrote a note to a friend, with a word of thanks that our cups overflow with His love. Thank you for this “two-fer”! And it came to me last night while we were talking with our daughter, that this grace of loving others, and receiving a harvest of love and healing in your own heart, explains why she is as “well” as she is today. Again, thank you for the confirmation. Blessings!

  2. Salina, I loved this. It was so beautiful. Everything you write and say is so encouraging and filled with love. I feel as though every word that leaves your mouth is blessed by God so that it can touch others and fill them with hope, security, and love. I also feel that God uses you to get me, because when I read other people’s blogs or whatever it may be, I never feel the way I do after reading something you have writting or hearing you speak. All those words feel me and a spark ignites a fire inside me and I feel closer to God. You have truly been a blessing to me. I love you so much and I miss you a lot. I thank God everyday for bringing you into my life. His ways arer mysterious, but I know He brought us together so that through your example, I might draw closer to Him. Thank you, Salina, for being a faithful, God-fearing, Christian woman and a wonderful example for me to follow! I love you!

  3. Salina,
    I LOVE you! To the core, completely adore you! I love how you do you, the authentic you, so transparently! My life has been enriched and forever blessed by how you have poured into me and by watching you pour into the lives of all of our EG mamas and leaders.


  4. THIS is sooo awesome! I love how the words from your heart just poured out for us all to feel connected to you!!! You are one of those people that contribute to my love tank being full, and now you are adding to others tank by your writing!! It’s soooo beautiful!! Keep sharing, keep loving…,youuuuuu are amazing sister!!!

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