Unanswered Prayers

Being a friend to so many young, single and pregnant girls or single new moms, I see a lot of boyfriend/girlfriend relationships come and go. I know it hurts more when you parent a child together but the relationship doesn’t work. I’ve seen girls even stay in a relationship with someone that they know full well that he is not the man God has picked out for them, but still try so hard to make it work.

How can God bring you the man He has picked out for you, your soulmate, if you can’t let go of the wrong one? 

I know it takes courage to cut it off. It’s hard I know. But what blessings could be waiting for you if you just trust God and wait on Mr. Right? You don’t have to force a relationship … or think that maybe one day they will change.

As a teen, I definitely had my fair share of guys that I dated and thought they were the one. I would scribble my name with their last name on my notebook … I would think about what our future kids might look like … and then things would change. Either I would start to lose the love feeling or they would … and that was until I met my now husband. Then I knew.

We have been married 14 years and every once in a while I’ll run into one of my old boyfriends. Immediately that old Garth Brooks song will go through my head, “Sometimes I thank God, for unanswered prayers” – just SO thankful that I didn’t waste my time with the wrong ones longer than I had to.

Last week it seemed like a lot of girls are struggling in this area … can I just encourage you to seek God and ask Him to show you what to do? Ask Him to make it obvious for you … and when He does, and it might not be the answer you wanted, don’t look the other way. Remember that God is FOR YOU. He LOVES YOU. He has the VERY best for you.

Do you trust Him?

Are you in a relationship where you go back and forth every other day about if your man is right for you? Would love to hear from you! 

Written by Amy Ford

9 thoughts on “Unanswered Prayers

  1. Although not a teenager, I am a single pregnant mom that recently struggled with this. I too was married for 14 years, and had two wonderful girls, but my marriage fell apart. After the divorce I started dating, which was something I had NO CLUE how to do. In this regard, I was like a teenager first starting out, only I wasn’t. I was in my mid thirties.

    I wound up getting pregnant with a guy who I’d been casually dating for two months. I was devestated, ashamed, and so lost. Unlike a teenager, I did not have the luxury of saying “well I was young and naive.” I mean I’m a responsible grown woman!!! I should know better! I know all the Bible verses and know what I did was wrong. DEVESTATED.

    I knew I didn’t love this man, but I did like him and thought I could make myself love him the way a wife loves a husband, for the baby. So we put our relationship into hyper speed. Looking for houses together, getting engaged. But the love didn’t come, and the relationship unraveled fast. Yet still I persisted. The idea life of a single mom of two kids and a newborn was so “out there.” God does NOT want that for me!! There is just no way.

    I was wrong. I was so miserable with that man. I FINALLY let go of my fiancé (sparing you the drama about how his true colors were shining through etc). AS SOON AS I let go of my plan and started following Gods plan, I felt IMMEDIATE peace and received IMMEDIATE blessings. Money in the mail became a regular thing. I was able to buy a house, a car, things I never thought I could do on my own. I received so much love and support from all my friends and family, and GOD. My due date is two weeks away and I am so happy.

    Let go, and let God!

  2. I really needed this today. Fathers day was kind of rough for me, considering Eliot doesn’t have her biological father involved at all. I feel so torn at times. This helped confirm that I did make the right decision so many months ago.

  3. Amy this is so good! I loved it. And it’s very important to remember these things. When you’re with the right guy, God will show you it’s RIGHT!

  4. As good as I am at hiding it, I do think about that almost everyday. I wonder if I’m forcing it or if I’m just doing my share of making my relationship work. I am a very co-dependent person so that also makes it even harder for me to realize if I want to make it work that badly cause I’m scared but either way this helped a lot and gives me my push consider gods wishes instead of turning away if it’s not exactly the answer I have been looking for! I just have to use god to overcome my fear of having to do it on my own to figure out if this is what I want! Thank you Amy!

    • Rachel – I know God will show you. And you can def lean on God if it ever comes to the time to take a brave step to leave. It might be the best thing you have ever done for you and your baby! I love you!!!

    • Rachel,

      I feel for you! I was VERY co-dependent. I questioned everything after I wound up pregnant. I thought that God must want me to be with this man if I ended up pregnant with him. I forged through a short-lived marriage and things did not work out well. Needless to say, from all that pain and suffering, I learned a lot about myself and just how co-dependent I was!

      If you enjoy reading, ‘Codependent No More’ is a great book.

      Stay strong and trust in your faith. God will take care of you and you’ll figure out what’s best for you!

  5. Amy can I just say I love your heart! Thank you for this blog. I struggle with “settling” and I actually just started going to a counselor because I know I have a lot of brokenness which goes all the way back to the messages verbal and non verbal that my father sent me growing up. I am tired of going from boy to boy looking for a temporary fix. She put it like this ..she said Sarah you have a void you are starving to fill and when we are “starving, we will settle for scraps.” The devil has told me so many lies that I have chose to believe that are now wired into my identity. Its time for the truth to set me free! I am ready!

  6. Can I add… Don’t forget the story of the little girl who clung to her artificial pearls. All the while, her daddy was waiting for her to release them to present to her a REAL, PERFECTLY designed, Made JUST FOR HER! God has his best for you… but he is unable give it to you until you are willing to release whatever or whoever it is you are holding on to.

    That’s all. AMY- I love you, and your heart for these precious girls/women.

  7. This is SO true and so good. I have struggled with this in past relationships and when I finally let go it was a huge weight lifted off my shoulders! God now carries me. He is my husband until I found the right man. And if that takes another 5-10 years, I will do it. When I’m feeling lonely, I either sit and pray for my husband or I journal to him. I tell him about what’s going on in my life- the struggles in facing, or just things that happened that day or week. It’s really cool, bc I’ll be able to give him all these letters one day!

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