My Perfect Husband

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Here’s a little bit about me. I grew up in a Christian family, went to church every Sunday, and was involved in my youth group as much I possibly could be. I even went to Christian school.

I was as Christian as they come…or so everyone thought.

I always listened to and respected my parents. Overall my family was functional and happy.

Straight out of high school I moved to Dallas, TX from West Virginia to go to art school. I had a boyfriend that I was crazy about so he came to visit every so often. After about six months, both of us were tired of not being together and having such a long distance relationship.

So my boyfriend moved to Texas… without my parents knowing.

My parents weren’t exactly fond of him because, well, we had been having sex and my mom knew that. So my boyfriend moved in with me and we were living the dream. I went to school, he worked and everything seemed to be so awesome.

As time went on I kept realizing how wrong the whole thing was … keeping it from my parents, lying, having sex, living together. That led me to call my parents to tell them everything. After a nasty and horribly emotional break up, my now ex- boyfriend moved back to West Virginia.

Little did I know, I was pregnant.

After he moved away, we continued to talk and fight mostly because he started new relationships with multiple girls. I started feeling really strange, and by strange I mean constantly throwing up. That’s when I knew I was pregnant. I took a test and of course, it was positive. I then called my ex and told him the news followed by my parents.

Since that day a lot has changed. I’ve grown up more than I thought I ever would. I found out who my friends are and gained new ones. I became a mom! Another thing that has grown is my intense desire to have “the man of my dreams,” my husband.

As one can imagine, being a single mom can be really tough. Often times I think of how much easier it would be if I just had a husband. Recently, I keep asking God to bring the man He picked out for me … and FAST. Just hurry up already!

Over the last few months, God has been speaking to me about things that I want to share with you. Obviously, the relationship I was in with my ex was not God’s idea of a healthy relationship but that is completely what I have been used to in the past.

While praying I said, “God, please can you just give me my husband already?”
In response He said, “Olivia, can I be your husband right now?”

Whoa…

God wants to be a husband to a young, single mom…he wants to be MY husband. The fact is, He really does! Once I let God be my husband my heart was satisfied. I have never been in a relationship so pure. I’m learning what unconditional love feels like. I’m feeling what it’s like to be truly romanced and swept away. I’m seeing how a relationship should be. I’m in a relationship with the one that is the definition of LOVE. I can’t imagine what my marriage will be like with my earthly husband now.

I know it can be discouraging as a single mom to stay single so why don’t you get married?

There’s a God that wants to marry you the moment you’re ready. He wants to romance you, talk to you, spend time with you, and honor you.

Don’t stress. God has it all worked out. There’s a reason your man hasn’t come a long yet. Maybe it’s work God has to do in you like showing you what a relationship should be or giving you confidence in yourself. Maybe He’s preparing your man to be the perfect father for your little one. Whatever God is doing, He’s doing right so don’t settle for anything other than THE man He chose for Y-O-U.

While I wait for the man God has for me I will remain happily married. 

Written by Olivia Boyd,

20 years old

9 thoughts on “My Perfect Husband

  1. BEAUTIFUL! I seriously have chills. I remember this same request from God many years ago0 I surrendered to that and began a torrid “love affair” with God. It paid off and prepared me to meet my now husband. I have now been with my earthly husband for ten years this August. God is so good and amazing.

  2. Omg. Are you kidding me? This is beyond incredible and I am so blown away by this blog. Seriously what you wrote is so simple, beautiful, and true. I love you more than words can express Olivia and my heart is touched by what you wrote. ❤ you did an AWESOME job

  3. OMG i love this!! i have found myself asking the same question… and i too have started getting even closer to God and totally understanding that he is the one for me right now!! 🙂 ❤

  4. This is such beautiful truth! Being married only to Jesus was a breathtaking, romantic whirlwind of a time for me. And it brought me such peace, too! Thanks for sharing such a life changing revelation, Olivia! I love it, and I know so many girls will be inspired by it, also!

  5. Olivia,
    Beautiful! Perfect!!! You got it right on! God was my husband while I learned how to love Him and let Him heal me. The really cool thing is God NEVER stops being your husband even when He gives you one! He is the man of your dreams, even if He gives you one with skin on. The best gift you can give your earthly husband is that he isn’t your all, but HE (God)is… Keep up the Godly focus! Such beautiful wisdom!

  6. Olivia, I love this. I kept telling God “I am ready for you to send me my husband. I want to be married again, but with the right man this time…I want my kids to see how man should treat a woman…why can’t I have him already?” I know the answer is because it’s not the right time. I miss being married. Even though Anthony and I didn’t always have the best relationship, there were still a lot of good moments and I enjoyed being the wife and taking care of the home and the kids and cooking dinner….I loved it. But, I just know how much more satisfying it is going to be when I am able to do those things for my right husband and actually be appreciated for what I do!

  7. Olivia, I have known you a long time and you have always had such a wise spirit and a sensitivity to hear God’s voice even at a very young age. Being a single mom is difficult at any age, but you are right about God being the husband. He will be the provider, the counselor, the problem solver and yes even the ‘romancer’ (sp?) for you and me and all the other single woman out there, if they are wise enough to allow Him to have that position in their life. Thank you for sharing your heart.

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