Emotional Decisions

It’s so easy to do.  We reach the ice cream because it sounds a lot better than the healthier snack. We agree to something out of pressure or sympathy and we regret it later and wonder what in the world made us say yes? We have that impulse buy and later wish we hadn’t. We give a little too much of our hearts to a person we might be dating because we got all the butterflies but a few days later, wondering what you ever saw in the guy.

It’s easy to let our emotions drive our decisions. It’s a little too easy actually.  But what if we stopped and waited before we spoke out of anger and said something we might regret, what if we stopped and waited a few days before we signed on the dotted line of a major decision, what if we waited a few months or years before giving too much of our heart to any boy that gives you attention. We would live with so many less regrets.

“The heart is hopelessly dark and deceitful, a puzzle that no one can figure out.” {Jeremiah  17:9}

Our emotions go from one extreme to another at the drop of a hat – especially if you are pregnant. It’s basically our emotions on steroids HA! Our lows seem even lower and our highs seem like we’re at the top of the world. We can switch off in 1 second or less. The more we stay grounded in the word and recognize the voice of our enemy, the better we get at not making an emotional decision. 

Think about what we could do if we took fear out of the equation? What would we accomplish? If we eliminated fear but just based our decisions on the facts of God’s word, nothing could hold us back! Think about if you chose a guy based on listening to God’s voice on who was the right one or not, it would be amazing and you wouldn’t have to go through the heartbreak of countless dates with the wrong man. What about if you eliminated speaking at all if anger was in your heart. You just forced yourself to recognize the trigger point and just knew to immediately shut your mouth until the extreme emotion lifted, think about how many relationships would stay together and how much love in our world would be?

Basing things on how we “feel” at that moment will get us nowhere. Sometimes God requires us to do hard things. Even with writing a book I’m working on right now, sometimes I don’t “feel” like doing it, but I know God has called me to write and I need to override my feelings and have discipline in carrying out the task that God has for me in this season in my life. Or even with working out and eating right, most of the time we don’t feel like it, but when we do good, we feel so much better in the end. Awesome results don’t just magically happen, they are achieved by our actions … and our actions ALWAYS start with a decision.

I encourage you to write down some of the extreme emotions that you encounter in a day and some regrets of decisions you have made while experiencing that emotion. Writing it down will help you recognize it when it starts to happen in the future and you can help control it more. Let us know if you have any tips on how to base decisions on God’s word and not our emotions for the moment. Have you made emotional decisions before and later regretted it? What did you learn from that? We’d love to hear from you! 

Written by Amy Ford

2 thoughts on “Emotional Decisions

  1. um…..SO GOOD. I struggle with this a lot but when I do discipline my tongue and settle my heart, it ALWAYS works out for my good. When I’m in a ‘discussion’ with someone else and I feel my emotions start to run high, it takes a lot of conscious effort, but I take a deep breath and try to put myself in their shoes before I say anything. It’s SO hard sometimes but I know that it can prevent me from damaging someone with my words or destroying a relationship.

    It’s also REALLY hard for me not to go for the chocolate when I feel like I ‘need’ it but Daddy is working on me in this area too – finding my comfort and joy in Him and not the pumpkin chocolate chip cookies 🙂

    I love you so much Amy!

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