They don’t have to be great, they just have to be present. Their presence alone is a force multiplier. Their presence alone, even in the fullness of all their flaws, says to sons and daughters that they are valued and valuable. Their presence alone leaves the bride to the Father intact.
They won’t be present if nobody is showing them how. Unfortunately, for what is becoming the majority, there is a generation of absent dads. That ship has sailed, so now what?
Advocate dads can stand in the gap. It’s an uphill climb, but let’s put our climbing shoes on and get after it, one son at a time. It’s about the only social engagement that provides the kind of generational return on investment that is necessary for cultural healing. The future of our churches, schools, prisons, society and maybe even our own families depends on us reaching outside of biology to stand in the gap for the sons and daughters of missing fathers. Your kids are going to be marrying these orphans – get your hands dirty now or later.
Don’t wait until you are ready or have more time, that time will never come. If you want to know a deeper level of being a son, get in the game . . . it’s time for sons to be fathers. Our operation as fathers affirms and strengthens our place as sons. The flow is dynamic, not formulaic . . . the time is now.
Call a crisis pregnancy clinic, boys/girls club, local ministry, youth prison or some other type of venue to figure out how you can invest in them with your time. An hour or two a week. That’s plenty.
The kids might not know how to appreciate you at first; get over it. Don’t be offended by their defensiveness. If you had been where they have been, you would be guarded, too. If you have, then you know all too well and also know that it doesn’t take much. Just presence with a little effort.
I dare you to pray this simple prayer, “Father, I’m scared of getting out of my comfort zone. Will You show me how? I’m going to take some steps, but need You to make this work. Show me where to go. Love others through me. Come Your Kingdom, on earth as it is in Heaven . . . start with me. In Jesus’ name, Amen.”
Written by Scott Prickett – Scott is the Pastor of The King is Calling Church in Sherman, TX